Is Valentine’s Day Overrated?

Super Bowl Sunday is rapidly approaching, but February 14 is the Super Bowl for couples and one of the most commercialized “holidays” in the US. Yet, for many Americans, it’s no cause to celebrate. Studies have linked a variety of emotions to individuals around this holiday, from those in relationships who experience anxiety due to their attachment styles to people who over anticipate how they will feel about the day.

Both singles and couples agree that it adds, at least some degree of unnecessary stress, from dinner reservations to pressure to find the perfect gift for your sweetheart. However, there are some who still enjoy and actually celebrate the day. I asked 50 people (single, married and in a relationship) how they planned to observe the occasion and here’s what they had to say.

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Why Do Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles Attract?

Two people meet. One person shows interest in pursuing a relationship. The other person gets scared and runs for the hills. You’ve heard that story, right? It’s the classic cat and mouse game of the anxious-avoidant attachment styles of relationships? But of the primary attachment styles science has confirmed, Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful and Secure, why are polar opposites seemingly the most attracted to each other?

To understand the attraction, you must first understand a little bit about the theory of attachment and attachment systems. While there are a host of opinions, the primary concept of Attachment theory sets out to explain how our interactions with people affects our relationships over time & how we respond to intimacy. Most people are familiar with attachment styles, however, most people are unaware of the workings of attachment systems.

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