15 Things I’d rather do than go back to my ex

While a lot of our exes are great people who deserve nothing but the best, the majority of us probably have at least one relationship we totally regret. I wouldn’t say I’d rather do anything than date my ex again, but I would take my chances with Coronavirus before going back to his toxic ass. And that’s just a start. Here are 15 things I much rather do than ever take him back again.

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What Does Your Arguing Style Say About Your Relationship?

According to researchers studying marriage and romantic relationships, the way a couple argues can tell a lot about the future of their relationship. In fact, researchers studying married couples at the University of Washington were able to predict with 91% accuracy whether a couple would stay together or divorce, primarily by analyzing the couple’s communication patterns during a disagreement.

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What’s the One Thing Men Value More than Sex?

How many times have we heard the phrase, “All men want is sex?” I don’t claim to know everything about men, but this is one thing I know is not true. Now don’t get me wrong, sex is very important in a relationship and it can even help bring couples closer together, but there’s something that is more important than sex, and it’s something that men have difficulty admitting.

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What Really Makes Us Fall in Love?

I recently wrote an article for xoNecole.com called 10 WEIRD Reasons People Fall in Love that You Never Knew which included a list of unsuspecting factors that contribute to people falling in love. Some of these answers included the weather, sex, and asking the right questions. For this post, I asked 50 women to use just ONE word to describe what makes us fall in love and this is what they told me.

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Are 90s Boy Bands the Origin of Our Attraction to Toxic Relationships?

I read a meme that said, “Your attraction to toxic men began when you chose Jodeci over Boyz II Men.” After laughing out loud, I thought briefly about whether or not this was true. Then I started digging to see if there was something to this idea. The more I researched the more I found that the “good guy” Boyz II Men “image” was just that — an image & the MotownPhilly music group has had their fair share (if not more) of scandals, unfortunately, when it comes to love and relationships.

You may remember how the rumor mill churned with whispers of Wanya Morris and Brandy when she was like 15 and he was something like six years her senior, although Wanya denies dating her while she was underage and she went on to go to prom with Kobe Bryant back in 1996.

Adina Howard, also chimed in on the alleged “love triangle” involving her, Brandy, and Wanya in her Unsung interview and the Brokenhearted singer, herself, confirmed a 2-year “secret relationship” in her VH1 Behind the Music documentary (starting at 12:03). With all of this on the forefront of my mind, I couldn’t help but wonder, what do their present-day relationship statuses look like. And all I can say is, one thing about them tables…oh, baby, they turn.

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When Did You Know You Were Over Your Ex?

Ending a relationship is never easy and the process may look differently for different people. One of the most frequently asked questions that I get is, “How long does it take to get over a breakup?” which is a blog post for a different day. But, I’ve found that we often come to the realization that we’ve gotten over our exes when we’re no longer triggered by certain things although it’s not always so easy to understand exactly how it happened.

I asked 40 single men and women when they knew they were over their ex and here’s what they had to say.

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All The Single Ladies

When men decide to stay single, they’re referred to as bachelors. When women decide to stay single, they’re called…far worse than bachelorettes. While researching for this post, I came across the word “spinster” as the feminine equivalent of the word bachelor. In fact, in England and Wales these words were used in official documents for “unmarried men and women” until 2005 when the countries stopped the used of these words.

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How to Get Over a Breakup

Of all the questions I get as a relationship coach, the top 3 are: why do breakups hurt so bad, how long does it take to get over someone, and how do I get over an ex?

Everyone wants answers to these questions and there may be different reasons for each person. But when you’re in the throes of heartache, the only thing you want is to feel better. While there is no secret formula to expedite the process, there are certainly a number of things you can do to begin your journey to healing.

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