Maybe Your Picker is Broken

Tell me if this sounds familiar. You meet a guy. You start to date. And just when you think things are going well, he pumps the brakes or decides you two are better off as friends. If your relationships all seem to end up the same way, then it may be worth looking into what they all have in common: You.  Check out the following list to find out if your choice in mates is off & tips to fix your picker.

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He Keeps Calling So He Must Care. Right?

Wrong.

Don’t ever mistake a person calling you as them wanting to be you.

When I was in my 20s, I used to deal with a guy who would call me on & off over a period of time & ask to take me out. His inconsistency drove me crazy, but because I cared for him so much, I convinced myself that there must have been a reason he continued to call.

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It’s officially Cuffing Season

Meteorological fall begins September 1st and the first break of cool weather reminds us that cuffing season is upon us. It’s the time of year when “me” turns into “we” and your friends may have less time to spend gabbing on the phone than usual because they’re paired up with a hot new flame. And I’m not talking about the fireplace. 

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Good Girls Finish Last

You ever been in a relationship or “deal with” somebody for so long that it’s like you try to make them see how good of a person you are?
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That’s the case for most toxic relationships. You know you’re worth more than what you’re being given, yet, you continue to go along (sometimes above & beyond) to prove your worth. BE HONEST.

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What is the Dark Triad of Personality?

And how to avoid it like the plague that it is

Chances are, you’ve heard of narcissism (& by the slim chance that you haven’t check out my post here), but most of us have never heard the term Dark Triad. I’ll admit that I only ran across the term while researching communication behaviors for earning my Master’s degree. Coined by psychology researchers Delroy L. Paulhus and Kevin M. Williams in 2002, the term “Dark Triad” refers to a trio of negative personality traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—which share equally unappealing features. 

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Texting Your Ex?

I know how it is, trying to decide whether or not to reach out to an ex. On one hand, you want to get the shit off your chest. At the same time, you just want to cut him off with no explanation because you feel like, “He knows what he’s been doing” or “He already knows why I’m upset.”

But what if he doesn’t?

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What You Really Want is a Commitment


I know a lot of women who “deal with” men but are not in committed relationships. In fact, I’ve been that woman, many times. It may serve women who desire a commitment from a man to understand that the degree of the relationship won’t change simply because he gives you a title, anymore than it would if you were to have his baby. If he’s not ready to commit, then it won’t profit you to try & convince him of why you deserve a commitment.

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