When I went through my breakup last year, there was a time when I was angry. Well, if I’m honest, I really wasn’t angry, but I wanted to be. My defense mechanism for disappointment in dealing with pain evolved into anger.
The reason for this is because, like most people, it’s easier for me to manage anger than hurt. If I’m angry, then I can get over you. But if I’m hurt, then that means I still care. And when someone breaks your heart, the last thing you want to do is care, right?
In a weak moment pain, I found myself thinking about a way to hurt my ex, the way he hurt me (as if that were even possible). Said, if I saw him that I wanted him to feel my disgust. Immediately after that moment, God spoke to me & reminded me that even in my pain, I should still operate in love.
Going through breakups is hard but there’s a way to do everything. That may not include talking to the person, but it shouldn’t mean that you’re unkind. It’s not to say that you have to excuse how they made you feel, but you should still forgive. And while your relationship ended, & you’re no longer in love, your love doesn’t necessarily have to end. Learn to love them through the pain. Loving with the love of the Lord.
Let ALL that you do be done in love.
— 1 Corinthians 16:14