It seems I’ve finally found my way back to the social circuit…(hold for applause, followed by eye rolling).

If I’m honest, these few days of social media intermission have been good for me. While it started due to an event that was unforeseen, my hiatus allowed me the solitude that I needed to road map my goals as it pertains to this little blog of mine, as well as some personal stuff. The truth is, I’m actually happier when I’m not posting. It’s more freeing. Although even when I’m not posting, I still try to maintain an online presence thanks to my trusty social media scheduling tools, but sometimes, I resent having to be “active” on platforms like Facebook and Instagram. Social media takes sooooo much time. And time is more valuable than money, if you ask me because eventually, you’ll get more money, but you can’t get back your time.

So, I just said, fuck it! I’m not even going to think about positing or scheduling anything. What’s the worst thing that could happen? The people who need to get in contact with me know how to reach me. And you know what? I found myself happier and more at peace . Imagine actually living your life rather than posting about it. What a concept!

I realized 2 things about social media: (1) It can be an awesome tool for connecting with people & building community. (2) It can also be a double-edged sword. Here’s why social media breaks are necessary for everyone at some point. I felt like I was under pressures that I didn’t even realize. Pressure to stay relevant. Pleasure to please. And pressure to re-invent the wheel.

After disconnecting from the world wide web, I had a chance to reconnect with myself and other people that I’ve been neglecting. I learned to listen to my inner voice. And I got clarity on my vision for the future, my brand & being somewhat of a person of influence. What I learned from my social media hiatus is that just as the stories update in the newsfeed on your social profile, life continues to scroll and update, too, but sometimes we’re so wrapped up in our timeline that the experiences of life are passing us by.

I know we’re living in an age of cancel culture but I’m not suggesting we cancel our social media, but I’m advocating for more real-life social activities, like being fucking present and not feeling like life isn’t happening if it’s not being livestreamed. Take a break, put down the phone and embrace the muthafuckin moment.

The more challenges that I come up against on this path, the more I realize how God is preparing me for what’s in store. And I’m learning, everyday, to trust Him & myself in the process.

–TheRealBlackCarrieBradshaw