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How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships

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Have you ever jumped from relationship to relationship every few months, wondering why you can’t find the perfect partner? Or maybe you’ve been left wondering why the partners you choose are always emotionally unavailable.

What if you knew that your relationship choices and the way you attach to others has been established since you were in the womb?

Attachment theory identifies the way you relate to and depend on others. Attachment theory also shows the patterns of how we show up in our relationships.

How does the way you attach to others affect your relationships today?

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Here’s What It Really Means If You Have an Anxious Attachment Style

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Anxious attachment style is one of the four attachment styles that are based on how people interact with others in their relationships. But what does having an anxious attachment style really mean?

People with anxious attachment styles are often preoccupied with the idea of losing their partner and are always fearful that their partner will abandon them. They often feel insecure and unworthy of their partner’s attention and find themselves constantly wanting to ‘check’ on them or get reassurance that they are still in the relationship. While most people don’t want to admit being on this spectrum, having an anxious attachment style is more common than you may think and there are even ways to move from an insecure attachment style to secure. Understanding attachment styles can help you recognize signs, causes, and how to fix it.

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The Science of Adult Attachment: How It Can Help You ‘Secure’ Love

On By TheRealBlackCarrieBradshawIn love, relationships5 Comments

Love is a complicated thing. Sometimes we think we are in love when actually what we’re feeling is attachment. Attachment can be good, but attachment that causes pain and anxiety is anything but. In this blog post, you’ll learn about attachment styles and how they affect your relationships and why attachment style matters in adult romantic relationships.

Can Anxious and Avoidant Relationships Work?

On By TheRealBlackCarrieBradshawIn love, relationships4 Comments

The relationship duet is the dance of intimacy that couples do. One partner moves in, the other backs up. Partners may reverse roles, but always maintain a certain space between them. 

The dance is a draining, yet familiar one for all involved. But why do these couples even attract in the first place? What can you do when your avoidant partner pulls away? And can partners with such drastic attachment styles really work? The short answer is yes. But the secret of how these couples maintain is a bit more complex.

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