Category: relationships

5 Reasons Why You Haven’t Gotten Over Your Ex (Even When You Know They Weren’t Good for You)

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Breakups are one of the most traumatic things that can happen in our lives. And just when you thought the heartache from the rejection of a teenage love was bad, imagine being in your thirties to find it out, it’s even worse β€” but yet, we still embark on new relationships, because the pay-off is worth it, despite the risks. When something threatens our connections with the ones we love, primal feelings start to flare up, and a break up can feel like the end of the world, due our biological and psychological makeups.

Walking away from a meaningful relationship can be difficult, even when the split was mutual. Here are 5 reasons why you may be struggling to get over your ex, even when you know they weren’t good for you.

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30 Things to do After a Breakup

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Neuroscience suggests one hour of focused concentration on one concept or idea literally doubles the amount of connections in your brain and produces physical evidence as a result of your interaction in the environment & is stored in the frontal lobe.

It takes about 30 days to form a habit, so you may as well make it a good one. Devote at least ONE HOUR each day for the first 30 days after your breakup to do something for yourself. Between work, kids, traffic, or whatever is on your plate, you must require 1 hour a day for self-care. Here are a few ways to help you start feeling better fast.

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Here’s How You Can Change Your Attachment Style

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In today’s culture, attachment styles are a big issue. We all have one and they can determine the way we interact with other people. The secure attachment style is the best to have because it means you feel comfortable depending on others for emotional support, but also give help when needed. Insecure attachment styles often lead to anxiety, fear of abandonment or rejection, and not being able to trust anyone that comes into your life. If you want to change from insecure attachment style to secure attachment style, keep reading.

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The Science of Adult Attachment: How It Can Help You ‘Secure’ Love

On By TheRealBlackCarrieBradshawIn love, relationships4 Comments

Love is a complicated thing. Sometimes we think we are in love when actually what we’re feeling is attachment. Attachment can be good, but attachment that causes pain and anxiety is anything but. In this blog post, you’ll learn about attachment styles and how they affect your relationships and why attachment style matters in adult romantic relationships.

Does Love Just Happen?

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Many people believe that falling in love is something that happens to them but have you ever considered that falling in love is actually a choice? If you believe your soulmate was predestined to be with you then you probably subscribe to the idea that love just happens. But what other factors contribute to finding the one?

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Change Your Attachment Style from Insecure to Secure

On By TheRealBlackCarrieBradshawIn love, relationships1 Comment

Attachment styles are a major topic in today’s culture, especially with when it comes to romantic relationships. Many wonder how we get them and if everyone has them? The answer is yes, we all have one and they can affect the way we interact with other people. A secure attachment style is the most desirable one to have because it means you feel comfortable depending on others for emotional support, but you also give help when needed. Insecure attachment styles often lead to anxiety, fear of abandonment or rejection, and not being able to trust anyone that comes into your life. Luckily, attachment styles can change and this blog will show you how.

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Understanding Why People Lie

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I would be lying if I said I’d been honest my entire life.

“Yea, let me know what time and I’ll see if I can make it,” sounds better than saying, “Yeah, I don’t think I want to attend.” Saying, “Sorry for texting you back so late, but I’ve been super busy,” is much more polite than the truth of the matter which may be, “Sorry for avoiding you, but I really didn’t feel like talking.” Truth be told, the intentions behind an infraction are not always ill-fated. Believe it or not, experts say the reasons why people lie range from compassion to compulsion and understanding the reasons people lie is just as important as knowing how to spot a liar.

Everybody lies, at one point or another, so this doesn’t necessarily make someone a “bad” person. In fact, there could be a “good” reason the person you love is withholding the truth. If you’re curious as to whether you are being lied to, check out my post here, but for now, I’ll share 9 common motives for lying. I’ll begin with the most obvious one.

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Are You Happy Being Single?

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As the world slowly reopens, no one knows exactly how the summer will play out in terms of romance. Will it indeed be a hot girl summer? Or will you be playing for the home team with the latest technology that adult novelty items has to offer? Believe it or not, health officials fear a spike in, not only COVID cases come winter, but also STI and STDs due to the vaxxed, waxed and ready to climax memes that are trending on social media. But that’s a whole other blog that I won’t even get into right now.

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Can Anxious and Avoidant Relationships Work?

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The relationship duet is the dance of intimacy that couples do. One partner moves in, the other backs up. Partners may reverse roles, but always maintain a certain space between them. 

The dance is a draining, yet familiar one for all involved. But why do these couples even attract in the first place? What can you do when your avoidant partner pulls away? And can partners with such drastic attachment styles really work? The short answer is yes. But the secret of how these couples maintain is a bit more complex.

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