Category: relationships

Here’s What It Really Means If You Have an Anxious Attachment Style

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Anxious attachment style is one of the four attachment styles that are based on how people interact with others in their relationships. But what does having an anxious attachment style really mean?

People with anxious attachment styles are often preoccupied with the idea of losing their partner and are always fearful that their partner will abandon them. They often feel insecure and unworthy of their partner’s attention and find themselves constantly wanting to ‘check’ on them or get reassurance that they are still in the relationship. While most people don’t want to admit being on this spectrum, having an anxious attachment style is more common than you may think and there are even ways to move from an insecure attachment style to secure. Understanding attachment styles can help you recognize signs, causes, and how to fix it.

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Here’s What the RIGHT Man and the WRONG Man Have in Common

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When it comes to dating, women often place men in two categories: the right man and the wrong man.

The right man, we suggest, is kind, consistent, and takes our feelings into consideration while the wrong man, we project as being selfish, unsupportive, erratic, and emotionally unavailable. While these two men may seem very different on the surface, they actually have something significant in common that once you realize, may help in your next relationship.

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The Problem With Blaming Your Partner

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One of the most fundamental parts of a relationship, I believe, is a feeling that everything that goes wrong in a relationship can be fixed. I aspire to what is known as a growth mindset in people and relationships, which is the idea that inevitably, people can change and things will work out despite problems they have and that couples can come out stronger for it. After all, this is why we get into relationships in the first place: to be with somebody who will support us unconditionally and help us through the tough times.

However, what happens when we start to blame our partner for everything that goes wrong in our relationship? What if we start to see them as the source of all of our problems? This is where the blame game starts to take over, and it can be a very dangerous road to go down.

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How Blame Sabotages Relationships: Understanding Attribution Theory

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Attribution theory is a psychological concept that helps us to understand how people explain events in their lives. There are two types of attribution: internal cause/dispositional and external cause/situational. Dispositional attribution is the belief that a person’s behavior is due to their personality or character traits. Situational attribution is the belief that a person’s behavior is due to outside factors. Both attribution types can be used to explain behavior in (dating/romantic) relationships, but each attribution type is most commonly used in specific situations.

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Doing THIS Can Sabotage Even the Best Relationship

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Lying, cheating, manipulating β€” they’re all bad and can lead to couples going their separate ways, but these things are usually done TO us and are beyond our control. There’s another action, however, that can lead couples down a spiraling staircase and ruin even the best relationship.

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Here’s Why Breakups Are Good for You

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At some point, we’ve all been through a bad breakup that left us feeling like we’d never get over the hurt. However there has been little research into what people experience after the dust settles and they’ve decided to move on. This blog will share research that aims to fill the void to help readers better understand what it’s really like after a major heartbreak and why breakups can actually be good for you.

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Cuffing Season During COVID? Try The NEW Dating App, BLK.

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As summer officially came to an end on September 22, lower temperatures and shorter days have started to ushering in a new season as we find ourselves preparing for a very important time of year for many β€” cuffing season, you know, the time of year when it starts getting cooler and people are looking for bodies to cuddle up next to.

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5 Reasons Why You Haven’t Gotten Over Your Ex (Even When You Know They Weren’t Good for You)

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Breakups are one of the most traumatic things that can happen in our lives. And just when you thought the heartache from the rejection of a teenage love was bad, imagine being in your thirties to find it out, it’s even worse β€” but yet, we still embark on new relationships, because the pay-off is worth it, despite the risks. When something threatens our connections with the ones we love, primal feelings start to flare up, and a break up can feel like the end of the world, due our biological and psychological makeups.

Walking away from a meaningful relationship can be difficult, even when the split was mutual. Here are 5 reasons why you may be struggling to get over your ex, even when you know they weren’t good for you.

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30 Things to do After a Breakup

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Neuroscience suggests one hour of focused concentration on one concept or idea literally doubles the amount of connections in your brain and produces physical evidence as a result of your interaction in the environment & is stored in the frontal lobe.

It takes about 30 days to form a habit, so you may as well make it a good one. Devote at least ONE HOUR each day for the first 30 days after your breakup to do something for yourself. Between work, kids, traffic, or whatever is on your plate, you must require 1 hour a day for self-care. Here are a few ways to help you start feeling better fast.

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