God Said “Get a Divorce”

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I used to always say that I never wanted to get a divorce. I considered that a personal fail in both my love & spiritual life (although, I’ve never been married before).

I remember growing up, as a child who’s parents were going through divorce, the discord within our home. I remember the transitions that resulted from my parents separation. And not to fault them, but I vowed that would never be me.

Even as an adult, I held love to such a high esteem that I never considered divorce an option for me. That’s not what I’d want & that’s surely not what God wants, I mean, right?

The older I get, the more I realize how complex life & love can sometimes be. Sometimes, we end up in the wrong relationship for the right reasons. While I had considered all the reasons why not to get a divorce, I never considered the main reason why I would.

Any other time I’ve been in a bad “situation” & prayed about it, God told me to change it. And He gave me clarity on how to do it.

More than anything, I believe that God wants me to be happy. And that may require an undoing of something that He never intended for me in the first place. Besides that, I can think of far worse things in life than getting a divorce. One of them is staying in a relationship that makes you miserable.

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Happy Freakin’ New Year


I honestly didn’t expect it to happen this year. But on the eve of New Year’s Eve as I drove home, on a cold, rainy night no less, I felt the pressure rising up in my chest. To be honest, I felt it early Saturday morning when I woke up in a beautiful suite that overlooked my city, all alone. Continue reading “Happy Freakin’ New Year”

My Apology to The Other Woman


I owe you an apology.

Although we’ve never met, I feel like we know each other. Probably as much as anyone can know through the superficial scrubbing of one’s social media profile. I made judgments about you based on your name, pictures & posts, the same way I’m sure you did about me. I clung to assumptions of who I imagined you to be. I side-eyed your pics and trolled your comments. And I questioned some of your hair pieces, as well. And I know that may sound like shade, but it’s not. Continue reading “My Apology to The Other Woman”

I F**king Hate Him

downloadI saw him again, today. So much for wishful thinking…

Now I know it was just yesterday that I posted about tossing my coin into the sea in hopes of never seeing him again, yet, low & behold, I’m minding my own business, stepped outside for some fresh air when “Boom”. I won’t even bother with details this time because I’m just so over it. At first, it was kinda cute, almost endearing, even. Now, it’s just annoying as fuck.

Continue reading “I F**king Hate Him”